“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” James 4:1-3
I just used a bad word, responsibility. Today most people do not want to accept responsibility for anything. It is always someone else at fault that’s causing the problem. They go thru life not facing responsibility for their problems. Life is difficult. This is a great truth. Once we learn to accept that life is difficult and that we will have problems in life, life is less difficult. Life is a series of problems. Do we want to complain and moan about them or do we want to solve them and go on with life? What do we need to solve these life problems? We need to have discipline. Discipline is a set of tools that we use to solve problems. It is painful at times to have the discipline to solve problems. We don’t want any pain in life, but life is about pain. Without the pain of problems, we will not grow as a Christian or a human being.
In any conflict we will find that there are always two sides. Conflict is never one sided. I know that you say, if they would just listen, we would not have the conflict or you just don’t know what they did to me. This may be true, but if we accept responsibility, we will want to sit down and talk out the conflict and see if we can find a common ground. It is easier to just blame others than to work out the conflict. Even if the conflict is not your fault, you must take the responsibility to solve the problem. This takes discipline.