“But if a man thinks that he’s treating his fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It is not a sin. But if he has decided firmly not to marry and there is no urgency and he can control his passion, he does well not to marry. So, the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better. A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:36-39
Paul addressed here the fathers of the unmarried girls. In that day, it was the parents who arranged the marriages, the father in particular. Paul had already said that he was not laying down an ironclad rule for everyone to follow, regardless of circumstances. Now he made it clear that the father had freedom of choice whether or not he would give his daughter in marriage.
Even though our modern approach to dating and marriage is completely foreign to the Corinthians, the counsel Paul gave them still applies today. It is a wise thing for couples to counsel with their parents and with their Christian leaders in the church, lest they rush into something which afterward they regret.
It is God’s will that marriage union be a lifetime, permanent commitment. There is no place in Christian marriage for a trial marriage, nor is there any room for the escape-hatch attitude. If it doesn’t work, we can get a divorce. This is not God’s way for marriage. Marriage must be built on a firm foundation. That foundation is Jesus Christ and God’s Word. The main message that Paul is trying to get across is that we must put God first in all that we do; in every area of our life.